A Normal Family

After a minor surgery, a major crisis and countless daily annoyances, I found myself wishing for just one normal day. One without drama or doctors, overtime or over-eating, sleep deprivation or cries of "why me."

Then I realized - this IS normal.

Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans. Trite to quote famous musicians on a blog, I know, but I can't think of a more apt phrase for the current state of affairs in all things BadAssMama. Suffice it to say that the past few weeks - check that, past 4 months - have been more-than-a-little-less-than-normal around here.

Just as life doesn't always work out the way you planned, I do believe that the same can be said about your family. Or, even more specifically, the role that YOU will play in your family as a mom. Maybe it's just me, but before my kids arrived I was chock-full of pre-conceived notions about how I would raise my kids. What books they would read, how much TV they would watch, the organic meals I would lovingly prepare on a daily basis (OK, maybe that's a stretch but you get the idea). I thought that there was one "right way" to raise my kids. The good way. The smart way. One answer to the million dollar question of how to raise happy, healthy and not-in-the-least-bit-psycho-killer-ish children.

Some days, I still fall into the trap of thinking that there is a "right way" to be a mother; and that I am tragically, woefully unprepared and under-qualified to live up to that gold standard.

Then life intervenes. There comes a major surgery, a minor crisis and untold millions of daily inconveniences and you realize that your family - just like your life - is NOT a one-size-fits-all equation. There is NOT one answer on how to raise kids the right way, just like there is NOT just one type of family.

Raising a family - a happy, healthy family - is a multiple choice quiz with only ONE wrong answer. If you make your choices out of fear or without love, then you've made a mistake. Any choice you make out of love for your children and the desire to do the absolute best for them is the right answer for YOU and YOUR family.

So stop worrying about following the rules. When it comes to raising your happy family, only YOU can make the rules.

Sorry I've been away for a while. Life intervenes...but The BadAssMama is back.
Anonymous said...

This is great and just have to share on my FB. Thanks for the humor and writing this out ..

Danielle said...

Thanks for this post. Very true.

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