The Mom Cave

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Do you remember Tim "The Toolman" Taylor from that 90's show "Home Improvement"? Believe it or not, I actually loved that show. I thought the concept of the neighbor who you never actually saw (just his eyes and baseball cap over the fence) was hilarious. I loved the blatantly neanderthal "Argh, argh, argh" sound that Tim would make whenever he was in a particularly manly-man mood.

But my favorite part of the show? The man cave.

Many sitcoms and movies feature them. Even The Little Rascals had the "He-Man Woman Haters Club" (wow - am I dating myself or what?).  Most follow the same formula:  the remodeled garage, tool shed or den where dad can go to do his manly stuff without being bothered by wives or children. A place to hang out with other guys, or just spend time with his football game or baseball card collection.

I think it's high time to invent The Mom Cave.

While we might feature a bit different decor (or not - to each his own!), the basic premise remains the same. A place for mom to take refuge from the deluge of responsibilities, general hassles and to-do lists of her day and just chill. No kids, no husbands and no blackberries allowed.

Over the past several months, my laundry room has become somewhat of a mom cave for me. Yes, I know that's pathetic but stick with me for a minute. I used to lay out the laundry flat in the laundry basket - still hot from the dryer so everything doesn't end up a wrinkled mess that I have to wash all over again (because heaven forbid I actually pull out an iron...). I would lug the whole thing upstairs to fold in front of the TV - ostensibly to "relax" and catch up on some quality DVR time during my folding, but inevitably I would simply be annoyed that I had to fold clothes rather than simply enjoy The Closer or Burn Notice.

One day, I can't quite remember why, I decided to fold the clothes in the laundry room. The boys were upstairs screaming or playing or something (at a certain point, it's just all loud...), and I'd had enough. So staying in the basement seemed like a good idea. The room was quiet and still. The folding methodical, almost soothing. Zen-like. While I was down there, I decided to call a girlfriend who I hadn't spoken with in a while. I folded and we talked. Before I knew it, the laundry was done but the conversation was not, so I moved from the laundry room to the bathroom (since there's nowhere to sit in the laundry room and a perfectly good toilet in the bathroom...). Another 20 minutes or so passed, and we said our good-byes. I then took the laundry basket upstairs, put the clothes away and rejoined the real world. A bit more relaxed, refreshed even from my time in the Mom Cave.

I found myself looking forward to my time in the basement each week. Each load would be accompanied by a phone call to a dear friend which would inevitably linger well past the folding of the last sock. Sometimes I would just fold in silence, soaking in the white noise of the dehumidifier and enjoying the incredible sound proof-ness of our basement walls.

Reading back over the last few paragraphs, I realize that it may seem pathetic and oddly anti-feminist for me to extol the relaxing virtues of folding clothes in the basement (take THAT Gloria Steinem!). But the details don't matter. The point is, I found a place to escape the noise of my life on a regular basis. If I had my druthers, I would have a pleasant and finely appointed room of my own - something with a sage green and chocolate color palette, with a refrigerator for wine and snacks and a place to warm green tea. A comfy couch with a table to store my favorite books and a window to look out onto the world and relax.

I don't know about you, but my house isn't that big and my kids' shit is everywhere, so that's not gonna happen any time soon.

But for now, I have my basement and the flow of folding laundry in peace - alone, or with the company of a girlfriend on the other line.

I'll take it...
Susan said...

We just moved into a rental into the Atlanta area. And said rental has a chicken coop in the back yard. And one in the cellar. You know, for winter chickens. I guess.

As no one wants to go near these coops, nor can we figure out how you would even get in one or stuff chickens in there - I see a Mom Cave in my future.

Or. I could just make a lovely room in the cellar and spy on the fam.

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