What would you do if you weren't afraid to fail?

I can't pinpoint the first time that I heard this question, but then like now it shakes me to my very core. For the answer to this question is the key to your true passion.

No, I'm not trying to get all existential on you. I'm just in the mood for reinvention. I think it's something about the start of a new school year. New clothes. new backpacks. New teachers. New friends. A clean start, a chance to start anew. And most importantly, the opportunity to reinvent yourself.

Don't like who you are today? Dare to be different tomorrow! Sound too simple? Not at all. Work with me here. Say you've spent so much time focused on your job (or your kids or your housecleaning or whatever it is on you"must do" list) that you've neglected to spend time with friends, you're yelling at your kids, your butt is the size of a wall and you haven't had sex with your husband since bell bottoms were first en vogue. You know that you're not living the life of your dreams, but you feel powerless to change it.

So what do you do? Wallow in the mess that has become of your life? Hell no! You can do something about it. While it is damned near impossible to change EVERYTHING at once, you can create the life of your dreams one small step at a time. Here's how to start:

  • Make a list of the things that are most important to you - time with friends, physical and spiritual health, peace and quiet, a strong relationship, a career that you are passionate about - whatever
  • Take a close look at how you spend your time. A great tool to help you get a handle on this is the book 168 Hours. Track how you spend every 30 minutes of your day for 2 weeks - including sleeping, commuting, eating and pissing away time on the internet (not this site of course....). Just like that $1000 per year you can spend on fancy coffee, you will find hours of time each week that you can use to build the life of your dreams rather than watching yet another Law & Order marathon
  • Now here's the fun part - look at the list of what's important to you and add one thing to your schedule each week. Maybe the first week it's carving out 20 minutes for a walk, or a phone call with a girlfriend you've been neglecting. Add something new each week.
  • You won't build your best life overnight, but by taking a close look at whats important to you, how you spend your time, and working to bring them into better balance - you can get one step closer.
Over the next few months, I will dedicate at least one post per week to helping YOU dare to design your BEST life. Tomorrow is not promised to any of us. Don't waste another day living anything less than the life of your dreams. Dare to design YOUR best life NOW. 

Let's get there together...
Southern Girl said...

Good ideas, might have to grab the book from the library. I know that I haven't been thoroughly enjoying myself lately but I've started treating myself to more movie time and tending to my actually growing again hair lol.

New York Wine Lover said...

I love this reminder! In as much as we might gradually sink into a habits of a less-than-perfect life, this post encourages me to gradually claw my way back to something more ideal, more me! Thanks BAM!

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