Here's to a BadAss New Year

The BadAssMama has been throwing herself a little pity party lately. And while some good old fashioned moping is warranted from time to time, there's no time like the New Year to suck it up and move on.

Let me explain.

The BadAssMama has seemed to lose her way. When I look at myself in the mirror, I don't like the woman that I see. Somewhere in the hustle and bustle of life with two-under-the-age-of-six, I seem to have lost my sparkle. My life consists of to-do lists, reminders, contingency planning and preventative care. Doctor appointments, allergy medicine, homework, lunch packing, time outs, laundry. Bath, books, bed.

Lather, rinse, repeat.

My days blend one into the other with more stress and panic than joy or celebration. True, there are the priceless moments of sweetness and light in the unexpected kisses and "I love you"'s from two little boys. But more often than not, these moments of wonder are drowned out by screaming and tantrums.

This can't be all that there is to life.

Raising kids is tough. It is great, it is worthwhile. But it can really suck. And, unfortunately, if you're not careful and incredibly deliberate in your thinking, it can be incredibly easy to fall into the trap of focusing on the not-so-great parts of life with young kids. It can be incredibly easy to fall into the habit of looking on the not-so-bright side of life.

But life is much too short for that.

More importantly, our kids are looking to us to show them what life as a grown up is supposed to be. Do we want them to grow up thinking that being a responsible adult means living a life of joyless responsibility? Lots of yelling and little-to-no playtime? Sacrificing the things you used to love for the things that you're supposed to do?

That's not the example I want to set for my boys. Hell, that's not the life I want for myself!

So this year, The BadAssMama pledges to foster an environment of grace, peace and patience in my home. I'm not going to be perfect, but I'm going to try. I'm going to try to tell my family that I love them more than I tell them what to do, or what they're doing wrong. I'm going to treat my body with respect - honoring it for the life that it has brought into the world, and the life that it still has left to live. I'm going to try to be kind to myself and those closest to me. Most importantly, I am going to try to approach each day with joy and laughter, and with eyes open to the wonder all around me - rather than focused on the messiness, the challenges and not-so-great things that can so easily distract us from how incredible life truly is.

Here's to a BadAss New Year...

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