A Year of JOY

As I start my 41-year, I'm kicking off a new Year of Joy challenge. The last time I did this, I have to be honest - it was kind of forced, pretty fake. I was DESPERATELY seeking to find some joy in my life, so I tried to fake it until I made it (not a bad approach for some, but doesn't work for me).

After a breakdown breakthrough, cross-country move, new job and new attitude, it's time to really take stock of where I am in my life and chronicle the moments of joy that I find in my day-to-day life.

Let's do it...

Sherice Torres said...

BadAssMama Update: 7/25/14

My joy today came from taking time just for me. The past 6 weeks or so have been ALL about getting my family ready for our move. And, truth be told, as much as I love spending time with my family, THAT shit can be exhausting!

Back in January, one of my best girlfriends and I planned to attend BlogHer in San Jose together. Little did I know that the week before the conference, I would have relocated to....that exact city. And here I am. Not only am I here with Terra, we talked another girlfriend into joining at the last minute.

So I am here, with my girls in my element, remembering why I started this crazy blogging thing to begin with. For the next 2 days, it's all about me. My kids are comfortable by the pool at the apartment with The Hubs and I am taking time to reconnect with things that are important just for me - not just my entire family.

This is not selfish - this is self-preservation. Love it!

Sherice Torres said...

BadAssMama Update: The Weekend Edition - 7/26-7/27/14

This has truly been an amazing weekend! Not only was I able to be inspired by the amazing community of women bloggers at the BlogHer 10th anniversary conference, I was able to reconnect with two of my best friends from grad school. There were amazing and inspiring keynote speakers including Kerry Washington (love her!), Arianna Huffington, Guy Kawasaki and my favorite - The Bloggess, Jenny Lawson!

I spent the night in the hotel with my friends on Saturday, and started Sunday with an early morning yoga class before heading to church with the boys. The day ended with an impromptu house hunting trip in which - drum roll please - we found TWO houses that we would love to call our own!

I won't pretend that it's all been unicorns and glitter. I yelled at my kids and argued with The Hubs more than I care to admit (to myself in particular or to the blogosphere in general), but I'm taking baby steps toward calming down from our pack-a-pa-move-a-palooza over the past 6 weeks.

But, overall, I call this weekend a win and FULL of joy!

Sherice Torres said...

BadAssMama Update: 8/5/14

It's been tough to find joy in the days following my grandfather's death, but I'm making some progress. Last night, I went to a long-awaited concert with my brother and sister in true badass fashion, with VIP seats to the Jay Z/Beyonce On The Run Tour. I didn't even want to be there most of the day (my heart just wasn't in it), but by the time the bass dropped on the first song, I was finally able to lose myself in the music and step away from grief for a few sweet hours.

Sherice Torres said...

BadAssMama Update: 8/6/14

Today is my grandfather's wake. Although I was tired after a late night at the concert, I knew that it would bring me joy (or something like that) to keep my standing morning yoga appointment. I set my intention to be kind to myself today, knowing that it was likely to be a difficult day.

After yoga, instead of taking a quick shower so I could just right into the day I took the time to take a gorgeous bath with lavender epsom salts. It was only for a few minutes, but taking the time to indulge in quiet rather than my usual rush was joy to me.

Sherice Torres said...

BadAssMama Update: 8/7/14

Today we laid my grandfather to rest. While it was an incredibly difficult day, I found joy being surrounded my hundreds of family and friends. I particularly found joy watching my children play with their first and second cousins. While they may not have met many of them before, it didn't matter. Family knows family, and they were fast friends.

Sherice Torres said...

BadAssMama Update: 8/8/14

Today, I found joy in having the first unstructured day in over 2 months. I had no boxes to unpack, no appointments to make, to schedule to keep. (I did my best to take note because there are VERY few of these in the foreseeable future!)

Sherice Torres said...

BadAssMama Update: 8/9/14

Today I found joy in an emerging new ritual - a nightly bath. For the third day in a row, after putting the kids to bed I ran a really hot bath, poured in lavender epsom salts and read while I took a good soak. It was a great way to unwind after an unexpectedly hectic day, and completely me-time (something always in short supply).

Sherice Torres said...

BadAssMama Update: 8/10/14

Today I found joy in re-connecting with my spiritual center. I think that I've found a church that we are all comfortable with and I truly enjoyed today's message of letting go of your expectations and becoming the person that God intended you to be.

Now if I could only find joy in letting go...

Sherice Torres said...

BadAssMama Update: 8/11/14

Today I am finding joy in starting over. I came into this move with so many expectations - of myself, of my family, of how easy everything would be once we got on the plane to California. Today I'm letting go of expectations and starting over.

Sherice Torres said...

BadAssMama Update: 8/17/14

Today was just about as close to a perfect day as you can get. I started the day with a great HIIT workout, then went to church with the boys.

When we returned from church, my entire family was waiting to take the 1 mile walk from our temporary apartment to the brand new 49ers stadium for their first ever game in the stadium. After the game, we all had pizza at the apartment and watched some ridiculous Will Ferrel videos on Funny or Die.

After my family headed home, I took a long bath while The Hubs watched TV and the boys played with their iPads. I finished reading "The Madwoman in the Volvo: My Year of Raging Hormones" and came to the calming realization that my crazier-than-usual mood swings, while partially related to our cross-country move were likely the start of the M-word (which technically began in 2011 after my ovaries were removed, but was staved off temporarily by a sweet combination of estrogen and Paxil).

Tomorrow I begin the first day of my new career adventure. Now, I am about to put the boys in the bath and read the Sunday Times after they go to bed.

Joy. Joy. Joy.

Sherice Torres said...

BadAssMama Update: 8/19/14

Today I found joy in new beginnings. After 14 years at an incredible company in the entertainment industry on the East Coast, I began a new career in a new industry on the West Coast.

Over the past 2 days I have been inspired, excited and intrigued. I have learned so much already and can't wait to sink my teeth into the role. I even got to ride a bike 4 times to meetings across campus from my office.

How cool is that?

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