Makeup Monday - The TUESDAY Edition...

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Beauty Has A History

By D'angelo Thompson

In many cultures throughout history men and women have adorned themselves. One of the most prevalent features are the eyes and hair....no wonder western culture spends billions on beauty and hair.

As an homage to historical women, lets play up your eyeliner this summer, whether its bold, thin or a smoked out eye. Remember the eyes leave a lasting impression!

Liners I love are: make up for ever aqua shadow which is a perfect water resistant eye liner, pencils by Nars, Sephora and Hourglass and if your a traditional make up nista I love shadows by Dita Von Teese, Urban Decay and Fashion Fair especially the Sam Fine Collection for Fashion Fair used wet or dry.

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D'angelo Thompson, make up, groomer, beauty educator, blogger and author
www.dangelothompson.com
www.DangeloThompsonpresents.com
dangelo@dangelothompson.com

Confessions of a BadAssMama - The Nap Edition

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My son wrote an incredible poem about me for Mother's Day. Not only was I thoroughly impressed with his 6-year-old penmanship, grammar, strong self-esteem and uncanny artwork (he even got the burgundy hair!), but I was particularly taken by how accurately he was able to capture my essence in his short verse:


The part of this poem that struck me the most was the third line: "My mommy likes to lay down." Now,  I could have been offended and assumed that this was a reflection on my work ethic (that lazy mommy, always laying down on the job!). My husband reminded me that things could have been worse - he could have noted that "My mommy likes to drink wine and THEN lay down" (which would have been equally true...). Or maybe napping qualifies as a hobby (which, for most busy moms it is a LONG LOST art).

I could have taken offense at this inclusion in an otherwise eminently shareable Mother's Day poem, but I actually took it as a sign that I'm doing something right. My son could have observed that mommy  likes to run around until she passes out from exhaustion and dehydration, or that mommy's always too busy to play with me. But, no - my son noticed that not only does his mommy like to play, but she likes to REST. I have made rest and taking time for myself a critical component of my life and I am happy that my son has taken note of that fact with as much pride as the fact that his Mommy looks like HIS Mommy (another proud moment, given that I've been mistaken for the hot nanny of my two little white boys on more than one occasion!)

Perhaps I'm reading more into this than I should, but I'm proud of the fact that my son notices that mommy likes to lay down. In fact, I think I might take a nap right now...

My BRCA Story

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There has been a lot of buzz about Angelina Jolie's announcement regarding her preventative double mastectomy today. I am impressed by the way she has chosen to frame her story as a way to empower women to know their risks and make their own decisions. As many of you know, I made a similar decision in 2010.


Here is my story...

I used to think that young, healthy women who chose to remove their breasts to decrease the risk of breast cancer were crazy. Then I became one of them.

Let me explain.

I am 39 years old. I am a wife and mother of two boys under the age of five; full-time executive, part-time blogger. I exercise regularly, keep an eye on my diet and have completed a total of ten full and half-marathons. I also have a significant family history of breast cancer - which means that I have seen a breast specialist every six months and had an annual mammogram, sonogram and MRI for the past ten years. I’ve had four breast cancer scares over the course of six years. And in 2010 I decided to have both of my breasts and ovaries removed.

And I’ve never been happier.

Now, don’t get me wrong. Preventative surgery is not for everyone. Even with a history and genetic makeup like mine, surgery is not an obvious or easy choice. But for me and my family, it was the right choice.

Ten years ago when I began the process of special screening for breast cancer, I looked at it from a very practical perspective - my genes are out to kill me, so I will do everything in my power to stop them. While the screening was nerve-wracking, I never gave it much thought. I kept my appointments like clockwork and always assumed that the results would be negative.

That all changed on February 6, 2007 when my first son was born. Suddenly, there was a tiny human being who depended upon me for everything. I couldn't get sick, take a vacation, work late…or die. Fast forward to January 9, 2009 with the birth of my second son, and suddenly I had twice the number of reasons not to die. Becoming a parent forced me to confront my family history in ways that I never had before.

After testing positive for the deleterious mutation of the BRCA2 gene (more commonly known as the “breast cancer gene”) in April of 2010, I learned that in addition to my risk for breast cancer I was also at an elevated risk for ovarian cancer. Women with BRCA mutations have a 36-85% chance of developing breast cancer in their lifetime (the general population has a risk of roughly 12%) and a 16-60% chance of developing ovarian cancer by age 70 (the general population has a risk of less than 2%). *

According to my breast specialist, Dr. Stephanie Bernik (Chief of Surgical Oncology at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York), screening is an alternative to surgery for women with BRCA mutations. The problem is, “some studies suggest that even with intense screening, you are not guaranteed to catch breast cancer at an early stage.” Dr. Bernik emphasizes that the survival rates are great when breast cancer is caught early. But the higher goal isn’t survival, it’s avoiding cancer and treatment in the first place – especially for women like me.

Breast cancer screenings are not foolproof, but ovarian cancer is much more insidious still, with annoyingly general symptoms like abdominal bloating and irregularity. According to my “ovary doctor”, Dr. Stephanie V. Blank (Gynecologic Oncologist, Women’s Cancer Program at NYU Langone Medical Center), the recommended course of action for BRCA positive women varies from person-to-person. Surgery is the best preventative option available today. However, Dr. Blank emphasizes that it is not the right option if a woman isn’t sure that she’s done having children or simply is not comfortable with the idea. “It often takes some time for a woman to get used to the idea of taking her supposedly normal ovaries out to prevent a disease, so (for some women) the decision can take months or years.” If a woman is not ready for surgery, as was my case when we first met, Dr. Blank discusses “the limitations of screening for ovarian cancer – false positives, false negatives and the stress that screening can cause without definite benefit.”

The turning point came for me in October of 2010, when there was another suspicious finding on my regularly scheduled breast MRI. Within a matter of days, I had an MRI-guided biopsy and spent yet another sleepless week waiting for the results. When I went to see Dr. Bernik for my follow-up, she happily informed me that the growth was benign. I was actually shocked to hear myself tell her that I’d had enough. While preventative surgery always seemed extreme to me, the thought of looking over my shoulder every six months for the rest of my life was simply too much. That day, I spent nearly an hour discussing every detail of the surgery with Dr. Bernik and almost two hours discussing my reconstruction options with Dr. Oren Lerman (Plastic and Microvascular Surgeon at Lenox Hill Hospital).

On December 15, 2010 I had a prophylactic radical bi-lateral mastectomy with diep flap reconstruction (or, to you and me, a microsurgery using my own tissue to reconstruct my breasts). While it was a harder decision to remove my ovaries, my husband Angel and I had decided shortly after the birth of our second son (over a year before I learned of my BRCA status) that our family was complete. On September 22, 2011, I had a prophylactic bi-lateral laparoscopic salpingo oophorectomy (I know – it totally sounds like something out of Dr. Seuss, but it basically means a minimally invasive surgery to remove both ovaries and fallopian tubes).

It’s been almost 2 years since I had my mastectomy and just over a year since my oophorectomy. While this has been the most challenging 2 years of my life, I can honestly say that taking these aggressive steps to prevent cancer from cutting my life short was one of the best decisions I have ever made. I could have continued looking over my shoulder every six months, hoping and praying that the tests would remain negative. Instead, I chose to tell cancer to f*&k off. You want my breasts? Take ‘em! Now I have a better pair. You want my ovaries? I was done with those anyway.

I chose my kids. I chose my husband. And I chose me.

*Source: National Cancer Institute, National Institutes of Health

Makeup Monday with D'angelo Thompson: 5/13/13

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Mascara World
By D'angelo Thompson


As a make up artist I LOVE mascara as I'm sure you do as well...it can wake up the eyes completely!

If you use your mascara daily and it's older than 4 to 6 weeks, it's time to buy a new one... Once you open it the clock starts to tick and bacteria is introduced.

To be safe it's always best to buy a new one every six weeks to avoid any eye irritation.
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D'angelo Thompson, make up, groomer, beauty educator, blogger and author

www.dangelothompson.com

www.DangeloThompsonpresents.com

dangelo@dangelothompson.com

A Mother's Day Gift for YOU from The BadAssMama

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It's right around the corner. The day we all dream of - when our children sleep in or miraculously keep quiet until 10am so we can catch up on some much needed sleep. When our husbands, partners, siblings and friends sing the praises of the daily sacrifices and super-human feats that we mothers pull on a daily basis. A moment to pause and reflect on the beauty of our lives and bask in the collective adoration of all those we care for every day.

Well, that's how it should work in MY head, anyway.

Since this nirvana is unlikely to happen any time soon (at least not in the next 3 days), here's a small gift from The BadAssMama to YOU to celebrate all that you do as a mom. Click this link to download FREE Nick Mom episodes from iTunes.

So when you get another macaroni necklace or your husband "forgets" to buy your Mother's Day present, you can escape to your room and laugh you mom-jeans off with Nick Mom and iTunes...