Grown up clothes

Today, I spent an obscene amount of money on clothes. The good news is that my new wardrobe looks FABULOUS. The bad news? I may not be able to send my kids to college.

There's always student loans...

OK, so I didn't exactly blow their 529 plans on Tahari and Tory Burch, but I did spend more money and more time on myself than I have in longer than I can remember. Come to think of it, I haven't bought myself more than a few t-shirts for the weekend and a couple pairs of work shoes in the past 4 years. Given the fact that I have been pregnant, nursing or attempting to lose the extra weight from pregnancy and nursing for 4 of the past 5 years, it should come as no surprise that a fashionable wardrobe has been relatively low on my to-do list.

As a matter of fact, it has been dead last.

My fashion choices have been guided primarily by 3 factors:

  1. Can I squeeze my butt into it?
  2. Can you easily remove vomit, food or various other kid-generated bodily fluids from it?
  3. Is it machine washable (see #2)?
Not exactly the stuff of Gossip Girl wishes and Vogue dreams. 

Yes, The BadAssMama's closet has been more bad than badass for the past several years. But all of that ended today! After some quality time with a personal shopper at the local mall (who knew that the major department stores offered this service for FREE?????), I am now the proud owner of a wardrobe that, by New York standards is barely acceptable but to me is absolutely divine. I splurged on some pricey designer pieces, but focused on classics that should stand the test of time. Nothing too flashy or trendy - good, quality stuff that makes me look and feel fabulous.

Then, I took 20 minutes to do a full purge and re-org of my closet. The unflattering or simply outdated pieces (we're not talking last season here, I mean several decades back...) hit the donation bag. The remaining items were color coordinated, grouped by season and occasion. Now, when I look into my closet I know that everything in there fits, flatters and can be easily combined into a coordinated outfit. 

So why did it take me so long? The baby poop-and-vomit test notwithstanding, The BadAssMama and ALL you mamas out there deserve to look and feel good. You don't have to blow your life savings to find a few classic, well made pieces that make you look at feel totally badass. 

But, all too often we put ourselves (and our clothing budget) at the bottom of the list. We take the time to  make sure that our kids and our partner look good, and too often spend little to no effort on ourselves. We're usually the first one up in the morning and the last one dressed. If you're anything like me, after taking so much time to feed, brush and clothe everyone else in the house, we usually scrape by with 7 minutes to walk out the door. Many mornings, my idea of a good outfit is one which includes a pair of pants and my left shoe. It's great if that shoe actually matches the right one...

No mas! The BadAssMama has had a badass makeover, and I can't wait to reveal it to the world at large. While I'm at it, I think I just might revamp my attitude as well.

Just another (fashionable) day in the life of a BadAsssMama...

p.s. Speaking of grown up clothes, I had the opportunity to have an actual DATE NIGHT with the hubs this past weekend to celebrate the 40th birthday of a dear friend. I took the time to find a great outfit for that too. Here's a peek...

Jaimie said...

Every woman should read that and take it to heart. We all deserve to look as good as we make our families look and need to remember to pamper ourselves from time to time. A burned out BadAssMama makes for a very unhappy home, so it important that we rejuvenate ourselves and look as good as we know we are.

And speaking of looking good. YOU look amazing!

Anonymous said...

I love your blog. It is so real.... in a time when everyone else is portraying the perfect parent, you are letting those of us that might fall below the bar, that we are not alone!

Amy said...

Oh my gosh, you've just identified with every mom out there. Though my last child was born 2 years ago, I still have & wear some of my maternity gear (pj's mostly) and, yes, I did lose the baby weight. It's just last on the list. Both of my boys have special needs... one w/ Autism & one w/ congenital heart defects. It isn't cheap addressing these issues. But dressing my boys... I'm always happy to do (husband included)! I'll spend money on clothes for them but not for myself. I'm a stay at home mom so I figure, they don't care what I'm wearing. :) However, on Tuesday of next week, my sister-in-law is hosting a Sample Sale for her new clothing line & I'm going & buying! So hopefully I'll feel stylish soon too. BTW... BadAssMama, you are beautiful! Love the photo!

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